HOW THE CHRISTIAN SHOULD HANDLE PERSONAL PROBLEMS
1. Ask yourself - how would a wise mature Christian handle this problem? If you realise that you are not dealing with it properly, then do what you would expect a mature Christian to do.
2. Try to overcome any emotional reactions. Deal with the problem in a quiet, confident mature way. To do otherwise is to compound the problem even further.
3. NEVER run away or avoid a problem. It is ALWAYS easier to deal with it when it is small.
4. Always behave in a friendly way to others. If your friendship is not accepted in the same way, then it is THEY who have a problem - not you.
5. Never react to an insult, rebuke or correction emotionally or self-righteously. Proverbs says "Rebuke a wise man and he will love you." and "A wise man (and woman) overlooks an insult". The way in which we take criticisms is a severe test of our Christian maturity.
6. Worry less about your own image, position and importance and concentrate on helping others. At the root of all wrong reactions to problems is the fundamental sin of PRIDE. ALL worries, anxieties and stress can be traced to this as a basic source.
7. Be humble enough to admit that you are wrong, ask for forgiveness, then put the whole matter behind you and continue to live a full and happy life.
8. Worrying and anxiety reduce the capacity to be positive and active for the Lord. Leave aspects of problems that you cannot alter or deal with at the moment in the hands of God. "There is enough trouble in each day to deal with, so do not worry about tomorrow." (See poem below)
9. Don't engage in self-pity and become a POM (Poor Old Me).
10. Depression due to your circumstances (i.e. not due to chemical drugs or hormonal imbalances) is really a spiral of self-centred self-pity.
You are expecting all the world to revolve around you: It doesn't, and people will see this for what it is, and you will begin to lose friends.
11. We must not blame our particular "personality weakness" for any faults. The Bible makes no reference to personality - it requires the same standard of behaviour whoever we may be and from whatever background.
12. Shyness can also be a sin. We are so concerned that our central self is not exposed and therefore open to criticism that we hide it away. Little can be accomplished by this negative attitude. Again, we are thinking of ourselves. Be positive and outgoing and you will attract many friends.
13. To those NOT shy, are you guilty of hurting other people's feelings? Do you steam roller other people's opinions? Satan is just as happy to trap us by what we consider the "strong points" of our "personalities as by our "weaknesses".
14. Self-control is frequently referred to in the Bible. Look up the references ("sober" in the Authorised Version).
15. We will all be held responsible for our attitudes and acts when come before God. We will not be allowed to blame any other person or circumstances for our inadequate behaviour in dealing with each situation.
16. Remember, the whole point of the establishment of the Christian Church is to help each other to become Mature Christians [Eph 4 v 11 - 16].
There is a poem that goes:
I have nothing to do with tomorrow
My Saviour will make that His care
Should he fill it with trouble or sorrow
He will help me to suffer and bear.
I have nothing to do with tomorrow
its burdens then why should I share?
Its grace and its faith I can't borrow,
then why should I borrow its care?
The following chart may be of help. The printout is clear.
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